“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.” – Jill Blakeway
All of us experience the inevitable turbulence of a life unfolding. We have our extreme ups, extreme downs, and everything in-between. We will all behave in a way – at one time or another – that can be perceived as toxic. Does this make us toxic people? No, it does not.
One’s behavior does not necessarily indicate one’s identity. In fact, most times they’re mutually exclusive. According to psychologists, a toxic person is not the whole person; but their behavior towards others, particularly those in any kind of relationship which often bears the brunt of such behavior.
Toxic people distinguish themselves by their propensity to “create drama in their lives, or be surrounded by it; try to manipulate or control others; be needy (“it is all about them all the time”); use others to meet their needs (such as “narcissistic parents”); be extremely critical of themselves and others, bemoaning their bad fortune and others’ good fortune, abuse substances or harm themselves in other ways, and be unwilling (or unable) to seek help,” according to Jodie Gale, MA, a psychotherapist and life coach.
In short, a toxic person negatively consistently and adversely affects people around them through their (intentional or unintentional) toxic behavior.